Today’s guest on the Relentless Growth Podcast is Elizabeth Benton, the number one bestselling author of Chasing Cupcakes, host of the widely popular Primal Potential Podcast, and a seven-figure entrepreneur. After 30 years of battling obesity and her finances, Elizabeth made the life-changing decision to create the ultimate transformation. By losing over 100 pounds and eliminating $130,000 of debt in just 13 months, she became committed to helping guide women through their own life transformations and has touched millions of lives through her story, methodologies, podcast, and products. In today’s episode, she emphasizes the importance of making conscious decisions in order to create your ultimate transformation and explains the meaning behind the phrase “Success can be scheduled.” We discuss some of the harmful thoughts she had to overcome, why she gives energy to the solution rather than the problem, and how to bridge the gap between acting and reacting. We touch on the importance of focusing on the facts, the difference between fear and danger, and how to break free from the purgatory between the past and the future, and Elizabeth speaks candidly about dealing with grief and leaves listeners with some powerful advice: focus on today’s version of the solution instead of yesterday’s version of the problem. Tune in today to learn more!
Key Points From This Episode:
– Hear the story of how Elizabeth’s book came to be titled Chasing Cupcakes.
– Chris highlights some of the ways Elizabeth helps to change people’s lives, starting with the thought that our pasts are only patterns, not prisons.
– The key to creating any and all change is the practice of thinking differently.
– How she reminds herself that, with every choice, she contributes to her healing (or not).
– What Elizabeth means when she says that success can be scheduled.
– What it looked like for Elizabeth to make the decision to create her ultimate transformation.
– Some of the harmful thoughts she had to transform and how she came to terms with taking a slow and gradual approach.
– The pivotal moments that contributed to Elizabeth’s desire to change.
– How she prevents herself from “being dramatic” by only giving energy to the solution.
– The opportunities Elizabeth has in her daily life to choose the solution over the problem.
– Tips for bridging the gap between acting and reacting; it is a constant practice.
– How to balance the dual perspective of grace and conviction by focusing on efficiency.
– Shifting perspective from playing the victim card to making empowered decisions.
– Why it is always appropriate to call yourself out; try not to get lost in emotional responses.
– The difference between feeling fear and being in danger; ask yourself, is it invented?
– How Elizabeth teaches people to move beyond the purgatory of their own behavior.
– Why she continues to chase her goals when it seems like she already “has it all.”
– Elizabeth speaks candidly about dealing with grief after her first born died unexpectedly.
– Growth is not linear; Elizabeth highlights the value of being open to unanticipated outcomes.
– Recommended reads: Future Proofing You by Jay Samit and The Essential Rumi.
– What Elizabeth wants her name to mean in 50 years: healing and change.
– Hear a bit about her upcoming book, Tools for the Trenches, which releases later this year.
– Elizabeth’s parting advice: focus on today’s version of the solution instead of yesterday’s version of the problem.
“Time is the most valuable thing we have and also the only thing we need to get wherever we want to go. We have to use our time to create the outcomes that we want – put it on the calendar!” — Elizabeth Benton [0:05:50]
“I saw, in a new way, that everything that was wrong about my weight loss struggle was not about food. I always thought it was about food. It was really about how I was thinking.” — Elizabeth Benton [0:08:54]
“There [are] always those moments where I have to come back to these strategies, these awakenings, these practices of commitment, these practices of perspective.” — Elizabeth Benton [0:14:12]
“The goal is gradual improvement, and that comes from practice.” — Elizabeth Benton [0:22:35]
“Being a business owner helped me learn, as uncomfortable as it is, to ditch the drama and all of the story and just focus on what I can do to create the solution.” — Elizabeth Benton [0:27:10]
“We teach people how to use their arms and legs. We teach people how to lift weights, but we don’t teach people how to become better thinkers.” — Elizabeth Benton [0:32:38]
“The feeling can ride with me. I don’t need to make it go away, but it cannot drive.” — Elizabeth Benton [0:40:52]
“Being less rigid or being more open to outcomes that I didn’t anticipate has been necessary for business, it’s been necessary for marriage, it’s been necessary for motherhood, it’s been necessary for health.” — Elizabeth Benton [0:43:27]
“Where you have been, yes, it’s very, very real, but it is in no way predictive of where you are going to go unless you choose to stay there.” — Elizabeth Benton [0:45:56]
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