Welcome to a Live Coaching session with Chris Goodman. Today, you’ll be hearing from Dustin Elliott, a men’s coach and real estate investor and developer based in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina. In this episode, Dustin shares what he is celebrating this week and elaborates on his desire to help others and fine-tune his coaching avatar during the course of this call. Tuning in, you’ll find out what is driving Dustin’s need to niche down and why I don’t believe that is really what his journey is about. It is about the very same things it is about for everybody else, the pursuit of certainty, contribution, service, and a purpose in life, and especially feeling validated that you’re on the right path! We work through how uncertainty prompts this search for external validation, and how Dustin can embody the confident, excited version of himself on a daily basis. When he knows that he is needed, he shows up, and that is a very important part of this session. These coaching calls aren’t always cut and dried but, ultimately, Dustin has a breakthrough and knows exactly what he needs to do: he doesn’t actually want to niche down and, when he believes that he is needed, it fosters confidence, and that confidence manifests in immediate and massive action. Tune in today to discover the power of believing in yourself and taking consistent action!
Key Points From This Episode:
– Where Dustin is located and what he does as a men’s coach and real estate investor.
– What he is celebrating this week; walking without a limp after struggling with inflammation.
– He reflects on the reason he went through this pain: to help others get though it.
– Making changes before you hit rock bottom, rather than waiting to hit rock bottom before you make changes.
– What would make this call a 10/10 for Dustin, including fine-tuning his coaching avatar.
– Find out what is driving his desire to niche down, from the opinions of others to offering more specific tools to his clients.
– Chris highlights the tendency to focus on what we don’t want, rather than what we want.
– Why Dustin wants to be clear about who he is serving: so he can best serve them.
– The cycle many go through when they don’t believe what they’re doing is “good enough.”
– Dustin talks about leveling up, whether it’s financially, physically, or business-related.
– How uncertainty can prompt you to start searching for external validation.
– What he would say to someone in his position: what do you genuinely think you should do?
– How Dustin can best put to use the excitement he feels from deciding not to niche down.
– Why, to take immediate action, Dustin needs to be the confident, excited version of himself.
– Find out how he measures whether his actions are having an impact on the lives of others.
– Chris explains why we often fall off the wagon when we’re not clear about the actionable steps we need to take.
– How Dustin can induce a state of confidence and excitement by giving himself a pep talk.
– Translating the statements he used on the football field to be applicable in his daily life.
– Dustin explains how being part of a team makes him show up in service.
– Hear from Dustin how going through physical pain has strengthened his mind.
– What he realized during this conversation; he gave too much power to the opinions of others and he shows up when others need him.
– The first step is to embody the excited, confident version of Dustin and take action from there.
– Chris emphasizes the importance of consistent action, which doesn’t allow for excuses.
– Why it is a coach’s job is to break the cycle of self-defeat and disempowering thoughts.
– Ultimately, Dustin has a breakthrough: when he believes he is needed, it creates confidence, which manifests immediate and massive action.
Tweetables:
“So many of us men get attached to our physical capabilities, our strength, our pain endurance, our pain threshold and, when those things get tested, your mindset gets tested even more.” — @_dustinelliott [0:03:40]
“We think it’s good enough, then we start to doubt that it’s good enough or clear enough, and we go back through the revolution of, ‘Well, I have to make it more clear.’” — Chris Goodman [0:13:34]
“When I know that I am needed, I just show up.” — @_dustinelliott [0:24:59]
“This journey is not really about the niche or the avatar or coaching as a business. It’s about the same things it’s about for everybody – certainty, contribution, service, purpose in life, and then feeling validated that [you’re] on the right path.” — Chris Goodman [0:25:19]
“A lot of times, when we get in these self-defeating loops or disempowering thoughts, we get into inaction and, of course, inaction creates a lack of results. Our job as coaches is to get in [there] and break that cycle.” — Chris Goodman [0:40:35]
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